Selected Letters from Readers...

Janice

Life is very unpredictable...There are times when things go well for you and times when things just go wrong completely.
When life turns us upside down, we just have to face the challenges right on...going through divorce and separation is
one of the most painful experience in life...but u can and have the ability to turn this sad event around and make yourself
stronger...

For u, u need to rebuild your life quickly...if you can channel your enrgy to your little girl, slowly you will forget your ex-hubby..
Take over control of your life, you have a choice, join a the club for single mother for a start, although your family will provide
the immediate support..the pain will go away slowly...make your little girl your source of strength.. always find the company
of your mum and sisters, dun stay alone...get all the comedies and watch..read baby books..lots of things to be busy about..
Once you are out of the blues, u can start planning for the future.....

Do write to me if u can...I am also available at nos below..

Take care...

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Warm Regards
Victor Leong
Papua New Guinea

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Janice

I fully understand what you are going through right now.
In fact not too long ago, should I say exactly 2 yrs ago, I was in a similar situation as you. Except the fact that I may not be pregnant then.
However, at that point of time, my husband whom I have ROM since 1995 and held our wedding in 2002 had already strayed for almost a year with the other woman. Yet time and time again, like your ex-husband, he denied everything when I questioned him about them.
I would say God has eyes. Everytime the more he tried to deny, the more lies of his I would come across and the more he would be exposed.
We have been trying for a kid since we ROM but i guessed God really has plans, He knew something like that would happened. We never had any.....Yes, I dont deny the fact that he has been very nice to me. He adores me and pampers me till sky high. But when the truth sets in, we have dropped from heavens high right to the bottom of hell......
I just wanted to tell you know.....like you mentioned in your blog......You are now living for the sake of your little princess, she will be your source of living....And most important of all, you still have many loved ones around you that would continue to support and love you no matter what happened.
I fully understand why you decide to lock your blog....The blog is just another avenue for you to vent it all out when you are all alone and everything starts to hit you off once again.
I hate to say this, but the pain wont go off so easily. In fact till tdy, whenever I think back my heart still aches. Why must he do that to me and what was he thinking at that point of time? Am I not even anywhere comparable to the other woman whom he only knew for that few months?
Not forgetting I was still consoling other friends whom were going through the same plight when I was in such dreadful state myself. I asked myself and God where did I find the strength to help friends when I, myself wasnt even able to help myself out of it.....But I survived...Hence I strongly believe you can make it too.....Esp for the little princess that's is on her way......

The only different between you and I now is that.........
Yes, he turned around and it also took a lot of me to accept him back.
Just like you, I am also pregnant and due in Jan 08 as well.
Fully understand the pregnancy roller coaster ride that you are going through.
I maybe just a little luckier than you are at this point of time, but I fully understand the pain that you are facing at the same time.


Hence if you really need a listening ear....
I can be reached at this email

In the meanwhile, pls take care......
"PK" (reader's name is not revealed as permission not given)
Singapore